I keep the peace

When things get uncomfortable, you smooth it over.

You keep your feelings to yourself, go along with things, or find a way to make the tension disappear - even if it means your own needs don't get a look in.

You might:

avoid bringing things up even when something's bothering you
worry about how people will react if you say what you really think
go along with things you're not fully okay with
focus on keeping everyone else comfortable
find it hard to even know what you want sometimes

On the surface it can look like you're easy-going or laid back. But underneath, it can feel lonely - like people only see the version of you that keeps everything calm.

Over time, that can build into resentment, and you might have a feeling of not really being known or understood by the other person.

Keeping the peace usually started as a way to stay safe in relationships that mattered, but it comes at a cost to you now.

Want to understand where this comes from - and how to shift it?

Watch my free video: Why you keep getting stuck in the same patterns - and how to start changing them.

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About Skye

I'm a relationship and trauma counsellor based in the Hunter Valley. I work with individuals and couples across Australia.

Most people come to me when they're stuck - in the same arguments, the same dynamics, the same feelings - and can't figure out why. My work is about getting underneath that, so you can understand yourself and others, and the change actually sticks.

Check out my services here.